Chapter 2

The Power of a Noble Family Vision



A Noble Family Vision is like a roadmap of what you and your family want to be like in 10 or 20 or 30 years. Having one can be the difference between getting there safe and sound . . . or not.


Without vision, the people perish.” 

Proverbs 29:18, KJV


“Getting on the same page with my wife and kids about what we wanted our family to be in the future, and why, was one of the best things we ever did.” John S., Seattle Washington

Leo Tolstoy, one of the greatest of the great Russian writers, started one of the world’s most famous novels, Anna Karenina, with a haunting observation: “Happy families resemble one another, whereas each unhappy family is unhappy in its own tragic way.”


Almost 150 years later, Tolstoy’s observation still rings true. And I will add a corollary truth: “Happy families are not built by accident.” Of that I am 100 percent sure. Strong, loving, caring families are built over time, memory by memory, in good times and (not infrequently) tough times. But what can keep us going as men, as the leaders of our families, especially when the winds and the tides of life seem to blow and pull against us?


How can we, as fathers, set the tone and establish the direction for our families, while ensuring that we get every family member moving as a team in that direction? It all starts with what I call a Noble Family Vision.